Before The Grass Grows

On August 2, 2018, a semi-truck carrying steel clipped a road construction worker who was on a roller. The truck driver, Kevin, steered the truck off the road into a grassy area narrowly missing electric telephone poles. The truck then flipped over and came to rest in the middle of the field.

Earlier in May, my kids and I began praying over our church. My son Jack prayed that traffic passing by wouldn’t be able to help but notice the church and come in.

I was praying for a new car for our pastor, who was on vacation at the time. On July 24, I had recruited a bunch of members of our church to pray with us. In my prayers, on July 27, I saw 50 cars in our lot and mentioned it to the group. If this was going to happen before our pastor came back, time was running short. On July 28, and after a bunch of failed attempts with local car dealerships, I prayed for the 50 to be here before the next Friday.

That following Thursday morning on Aug. 2, 2018, my kids were running laps around the grassy field behind our church. It was a normal hot beautiful day. My wife had Thursdays off of work so she was home. Later and after our kids were already inside, she was in the kitchen cleaning up after a late lunch and was the first to see out of the windows the flipping semi. She called for me, I was in the office, and called 911.

We quickly went outside. The truck was still but I remember its wheels were spinning. People began to stop. Betsy and a lady named Missy checked on Kevin. Denny, the road construction worker, was walking around claiming he was fine. I contacted our prayer team and we prayed injuries would stay minor.

EMS arrived shortly after. The church lot was full of vehicles. I remember counting them and got over 30 before I gave up. There were more vehicles coming all the time. Ambulances, fire trucks, they even flew in a helicopter which was able to land in the field behind the semi. Betsy remained outside and prayed in the heat. She kept giving me reports which I conveyed to our prayer team.

Kevin was in pain and was trapped in the cab. They were considering amputating his legs to get him out. Instead, they were able to lift the truck with the hydraulics on another vehicle and safely retrieved him. The process took all day and into the evening. 4 hours of traffic with hundreds of cars backed up and everyone’s attention was fixed on it.

We found out the next day from Kevin’s in-laws that he didn’t have any broken bones and only got three stitches. My kids may no longer run laps around that field, but our prayer times have never been the same.

I was asked by someone if God made that accident happen. I don’t know, but I told him I didn’t think so. Rather, that the accident was going to happen and God used it to answer our prayers.

I’ve since read news reporters write, “Someone’s watching out for that guy.” Praise to God from the lost wasn’t on my mind, but it was on His. He is able to do beyond all we ask or imagine, Ephesians 3:20.

The marks of the accident are almost gone.

Lord, bless every rock

Lord, bless every rock

Do not make Your favor as fragile as a butterfly
It lands for a moment
then is gone as the wind blows

I can not embrace such fancy
I would stumble and destroy
that which You sent to bless

Rather make Your blessings firm
May they stand through time’s test
Make them like the rock I can stand upon

Then I will praise You

Spiritfire: Proverbs 20:6, “Who can find?”

“Many a man claims to have unfailing love,
but a faithful man who can find?”

This particular proverb fell into another category. It asks a question that forces introspection from the reader. When we consider this proverb, we see from God’s perspective as He looks on the sons of men to see ‘if there are any who understand, any who seek God’. The answer, as in Psalm 14, is a mournful one: no one. I believe this proverb along with psalms like Psalm 14 help us to see the need for Jesus to come. For my family, I called it the ‘Longing’ proverb. This ‘longing’ for One to come and fulfill what we cannot, is echoed throughout the Old Testament.

For us, as we considered how Jesus fulfilled this proverb, we were encouraged to think on His unfailing love and on passages like 1 Corinthians 1:9 that spoke of how we are invited to share fellowship with Jesus.

Though the proverb is mournful because Jesus had not yet come, we are filled with joy because He has! He is Wisdom’s Fulfiller and is the fullness of God, Colossians 1:19.

“And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God.”

Ephesians 3:17-19

Who can find Him, this Man who is both Faithful and True? Only those who believe in Jesus and call on His name.

“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.”

John 3:16

Don’t

Don’t fall for it.
God has shown you
something so much more.
Don’t fall for it.

Don’t chase after illusions.
You know you’ve seen what’s real.
A place beyond comparison.
Don’t chase after illusions.

Don’t be distracted.
What they say is a lie
and you know it.
Don’t be distracted.

Don’t turn from the path.
Temptations never
lead to blessings.
Don’t turn from the path.

Don’t panic.
You aren’t being left behind.
Everything has its time.
Don’t panic.

Don’t give up.
The only way to fail
is to quit.
Don’t give up.

Don’t lose hope.
It’s not as fragile
as you think.
Don’t lose hope.

When All That Is Left Is To Sign The Papers II

I started thinking about my challenge in the previous WATILITSTP post: to stop-viewing-porn/seeing-someone-other-than-your-spouse and I thought this may be helpful. Here’s a list of thoughts. I’m sure there is more and better stuff out there, but this is too big to ignore.

Top 10 Ideas to get rid of Porn/the other person:

1. Get to know the Holy Spirit. He will bring to mind thoughts that will bring you to the only sure ground.

2. Get rid of the source. Whether it’s your computer/tv/phone, whatever it is get rid of it.

3. Join a trusted accountability group. Get help, don’t rely on your own strength.

4. Join a recovery type group. There are plenty of ones available. XXX Church, Conquer Series, etc.

5. See a professional Christian counselor. They can help discover keys to help equip you.

6. Think strategic like during a war. Know your strengths and limits. Highlight weaknesses and address them: ‘R’ movies, compromising magazines, relationships, facebook, etc.

7. Make sacrifices. A lifestyle of a living sacrifice helps erode temptation.

8. Change up schedules. Avoid a routine by filling your time with different things. Set goals for what you want to accomplish.

9. Hang up a picture of Jesus where you can see it prominently throughout the home. I know it sounds silly, but visual help is good to have.

10. Repeat every day: “I am a child of God. He loves me, so I love Me.” Then do the previous points.

Visions of Yesterday

There was a freedom I met in the Spirit.
It allowed me to breathe, not perform.
Visions I never would have believed possible
flooded my mind. I let go of everything I knew
and found unspeakable joy. Limits were gone as I regarded Him
at work in me.

That was yesterday.
Shackles that I never fully let go of returned.
The warm comfort of slavery, of my cell
called me from the stars
and returned me to the earth.

O, would that I could return to the stars
Nothing mattered there
He could take me anywhere
Let me tell you of them, of Him
the Maker of the stars.

I know you won’t believe me, you can’t
you would feel justified pulling me back
It is not your fault, it is mine.
But I tell you now of yesterday, of my clarity
It was something to behold.
It was something to behold.

When All That Is Left Is To Sign The Papers

Here’s an attempt to help:

Take a week/month and do these 10 things (If there is another person/porn outside of the marriage take a week/month break from them. I know this is ‘of course’ and should be for all life)

1. Get a babysitter. Kids don’t need to pick a side.

2. Don’t say anything to each other for a day. Only write each other notes.

3. Go on a date. Dress up for it. Make it special.

4. Get each other a present for the date. Guys: get her jewelry/chocolate, Girls: get him cologne/wine etc.

5. Feed each other dessert. The more awkward the better.

6. Do something the other spouse likes: movie/ice skating etc.

7. Take a walk together somewhere. It has to be at least 1 mile.

8. Look each other in eyes for 10 min. Don’t talk. You can blink/not a staring contest.

9. After 10 min. pray for each other still looking in each other’s eyes. It has to be a positive prayer.

10. Tell each other 10 positive things about each other.

Do this every day/night with each other. Take off work. Read 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 out loud together and take communion giving each other the elements.

After The Week (kids and work are back)

1. Write a note a day for 10 days saying a positive thing about each other.

2. Begin each day praying with and for each other.

3. Look each other in the eyes for 1 min. each day.

4. Embrace every day.

5. Read a chapter of 1 John together as a family each night.

After The Week After The Week (Testimony Time)

1. If problems persist begin communicating about them through notes. Write them from the other’s perspective.

2. Begin seeing problems as the enemy. Write down each one and make a plan to defend each other from them.

3. Look at your relationship as a castle. Write down/discuss weak points in the walls.

4. Write down 10 ways you would attack the other person if you were the enemy.

5. Write down allies/10 ways you can help defend them.

Spiritfire, Proverbs 20:4 “Beans Or No Beans”

“Sluggards do not plow in season;
so at harvest time they look but find nothing.”

We live next to a bean field these days. This led perfectly into discovering the seed of wisdom the proverb contained and we prayed for God to plant it firmly and deeply into the gardens of our hearts, souls, and minds.

Sluggards are one of the 5 residents of the Imposter’s House- one of the 3 houses in the book of Proverbs. Other inhabitants of the Imposter’s House include: the violent man, the perverse man, the scoundrel, and the gossip, 16:27-29. These 5 give an enticing but false view of wisdom which proverbs like this one reveal to the discerning.

Sluggard’s don’t want to work, they won’t even bring their hands from the bowl to their mouth, 19:24. We talked about the field next door and the timing involved; the plants are almost 3 feet tall. If the farmer decided to sleep instead of to plow would there even be a harvest? He would look and find nothing. The poor sluggard, always causing his own problems, but always expecting none.

Then we looked for Jesus, Wisdom’s fulfiller, in this proverb and found He talked about it in Mark 4, the parable of the sower. We decided the sluggard was most like the stony ground. The proverb didn’t say the sluggard doesn’t plow, just that he doesn’t in season. His inactivity left him without a harvest; like the plants of the rocky soil, it all withered and died.

We then began to talk about a mystery of God: The harvest is plentiful, but the workers are few, Luke 10:2. Would a sluggard even see the harvest when he looks out over the field? Does God hide it from him, and if so, why?

Spiritfire: Something to Yell About!

It all started with watching kids shout about Karate during a training session. The sensei would give the kids empowering phrases to scream before he began the day’s lesson, and they would respond by shouting it back to him at the top of their lungs.

This gave me an idea for our Spiritfire times. I saw how much they enjoyed screaming about martial arts, though my kids didn’t really enjoy the actual lessons, so I wanted to give them something to yell at the beginning of our devo-times that actually gave them real power.

I had them back up as far as they could and then run to the middle of the room and jump up real high stomping their feet as they landed. After they did this, I had them shout: “I am a child of God! (They would make a fist and pound their chest) He loves me! (They’d point to heaven), so I love me! (They’d point to themselves)”

Our Spiritfire times have never been the same.